Brave enough to live a Jeremiah 29:13 life.

flower child of the 60’s, young woman of songs and prints, communes and ecology, of poems and bell-bottoms

love beads, headbands, puzzle rings,

peace and harmony, love children if it feels good, do it

we were encouraged ‘go find yourself”

far from the post-war pendulum swing of the 50’s

conform or be banished

but where does one look for oneself as a young woman set free to be unlike anything before

looking for the soul in the bookstore

looking for the lover in the nightclub

looking for life in a living in the 70’s, the ME generation

monetarily making it while the consuming soul wastes the spirit

groping blindly for a place to settle in the 80’s

only to fall feet first into a black hole in the ground attached to HELL in the sewers of cities

‘go find yourself” so very far away from the starting points

lost and languishing until…

we were found by Light’s Originator,

found in the darkest places, blind, broken, belittled

but called by name and we heard a Voice Call our name

encouraged to Come and be brave

come close by following the voice until the dark was gone

close enough to hear and learn more

encouraged to take hold and not let go

to hold on and let go all else

to be:

Brave enough to live a Jeremiah 29:13 life..


Attractive Men

For my dear friend Amy, to whom I sometimes feel like a mom, or at least a big sister: Attractive men can be a very mixed blessing.

The bottom line, however, has so much more to do with MY state of mind, my focus.

Years ago I learned about myself that I had two distinct approaches to life, love and romance.  What was interresting as well as disturbing is that when I am on my own, ‘single’, I am highly independent, creative, active in my community one way or another.  Attractive men in the usual sense of the phrase are enticing, and a huge distraction.

And that, dear Amy, revealed the chinks in my own personal armour.Highly attractive men had an effect on me like a hypnotist’s subject from the audience.

It wouldn’t be long before I fell under a spell and, as if in a trance, become a malleable, adoring puppy, following that guy everywhere, doing what ever he wanted to do.  And for at least 90 days the spell would hold.  Within that timeframe, however, I could have made all types of plans and arrangements with Adorable Guy, forgetting that I had a comlete and highly capable and developed life and purpose before he had arrived on the stage.

By about day 100 or so, someone or something would snap their fingers or count to 5 backwards and I would we released from my trace, only to find that my circumstances, key activities and people in my life would be different from how I’d left it before falling under the spell.

When variations on this theme, usually with more attractive men with other fine qualities as well, the spells would last far longer, more engaging activities would be adopted,  so eventually I thought my own projects should wait and I should just try and settle down.

therein lies the mixed blessing. Attractive Man and I wpuld do great until I realized that my’ single’  personality was meel and I was simply tossing me aside in order to ‘get on with my life’.

Even writing that it seems so innane, but you gals out there in CyberTown know precisely what I’m talking about.

Well, once having heard THAT bell ring, I was really in a quandry. It seemed impossible to reconcile the two distinct aspects of myself in relation to each other, let alone entertain the thought that some man would be able to relate to me once I figured it wll out.

In fact, there were one or two who tried but eventually they ended up exploiting my creative gifts and I experienced some pretty devastating damages.

Tough journey it turned out to be and I realized there must have been some missing links I needed to learn about. That was when the whole spiritual quest began in earnest.

I say in earnest because in retrospect the search began much much earlier than then, but it was more loke a form of entertainment of sorts.  This time it was in earnest because I was sensing my very life depended upon what I woild find.  It was true, and it was so. And it came to be that I had to elevate my ideas of what attractiveness meant. And that too was a an elusive process.

But, I assure you that this quest sought in earnestness was worth every millisecond.  The adventure included for me a diligence, careful detail and skill required of a field worker on an archeological dig.

Male attractiveness is very important.  It is part of our evolutionary responsibility. In the hands of hetero couples is the call to propagating our human species at a level capable of meeting the demands of survival and successful thriving for generations to come.

Bet ya never heard it that way before.  This is where the spiritual anchoring in God actually became the primary  subject.   All things being equal, Adorable Man also had to be Attractive Man, accessible, aware, able, articulate, affable, accountable.  Type A, I guess.

All that, yes. But I surely had to be willing to wait because what I cooked up was a ridiculously tall order. I needed God to wait too. It was then it became clear that the most attractive kind of man there was for me was one I could ultimately respect.

And that is was inspired my post on you FB timeline:

I really respect a man capable of truly humbling himself before the Lord. It is difficult for men, especially highly intelligent men to admit they do not know things and to seek wisdom from God. But, boy, THAT is very attractive. As a wife, I feel safe and honored when my husband does that in all areas of life. Tall order,  but worth it!

Love you Girl!!


Grace in the Grocery Store

Grace in Action

Americans, like wise Officer Vicki Thomas are actually the majority here in the United States, not the exception.  Governments that micro-manage the goings-on of its citizens end up more a part of the problem than a part of the solution, especially when it comes to common sense values.

Americans have a great deal in common and are sensible in their own way.  Kindly remember that, o younglings, those of you who think the world owes you a life, a living and a reason for being.  Living on the dole may be a short-term benefit, but come to find out, short-term benefits often tend to short-circuit those real long-term solutions.  Especially for decent people who are hurting like this Mama was in her dilemma.

Note well the outcome of this incident of grace at work, was the actual solution Mama needed; namely, some real and gainful employment.  Now Mama’s got her dignity, a lesson of gratitude and some steady cash.  One thoughtful person’s actions – forgiving, giving, helping out with tangible goodness taught us a thing or two!

All it takes is ONE random act of kindness to set a chain reaction.

Well, whaddaya know!  Goodness and kindness is contagious!  Officer Thomas did much more than decide not to arrest Mama for shoplifting; much more than shelling out her own, hard-earned money to buy the perpetrator groceries.  Her choices and actions set a fine example of what it means to be a real human being (a Mensch), showing the rest of us through her choices that it is in fact “more blessed to give than receive.” (Acts 20:35, NLT)

Only in America?  I hope not.  But, certainly here is one more thing that is UP Right with the U.S.A.

(But for the grace of God…)


An Incidental Teaching Opportunity

English: Logo of Pokemon franchise based on DV...

Who says holiness, observance, spirituality, faith and values can only be taught in a church building , synagogue, temple or mosque?  If wellness, the manifestation of wholesomeness and healthy living, were only found in those venues, as a species we would be so more WORSE off ~ even more than we already are!!

As beauty may only be in the eye of the beholder, so wisdom, holiness, agape and graciousness may only be in the heart of the perceptive and receptive.  Perhaps again Tablet Magazine shuffles a soft step around traditional orthodoxy, but the message of core values and pathways to enlightenment may be missed by those to whom it was directed.

Pokémon Has Solutions for the Problems Facing America’s Jewish Community

I live with a Pokemon aficionado, dedicated fan and practitioner.  Admittedly, maybe some of his enthusiasm for the game and the long-running story-line has rubbed off on me.  But hey,  I hope more of my son’s character and example of courageous advocacy rubs off on me too 🙂

Vulnerability: The Birthplace of Creativity, Connection, and Authenticity

What lovely content! Clarity and charity wrapped together is refreshing and not easy to find. Much appreciated. Visit some time!

An Inspiring Waitress Gets an Amazing Surprise

Now, THAT’s how Americans really roll!

Thanks, Sarah and God bless you!

And, Ellen ~ Girl, you ROCK!

Sarah\’s story touched a lot of people on the internet, and Ellen had to meet her! What Ellen did next will change Sarah\’s life forever.

via An Inspiring Waitress Gets an Amazing Surprise.